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Aug 11Liked by Blessing Maraizu

This is beautifully done. Your Uncle's question has given me a different perspective. I think my problem wasn't exactly calling myself ugly, but always pointing out details in my body that were different from others that made me think I wasn't conventionally attractive ( not that I wanted to be though, crazy). Having an illness that affects your body rapidly and everyone pointing fingers at your weight and other specific parts, which can be out of care and concern always left a negative stamp on me. I am learning now and this essay is a body and mind booster. Thank you Blessing !!!

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Thank you for reading Uzo. I’m glad you liked it. I second your subpoint about worrying about aspects of yourself even though you don’t care for the current beauty standards. Sometimes I think even we are astounded by the paradox that is life and our feelings. I hope that from now on we will become kinder to ourselves and block out every external (and internal) voice that seeks to drag us down.🥹💕

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Aug 12Liked by Blessing Maraizu

This was such a vulnerable piece, thank you so much for sharing it with us. I’m glad you’ve taken the step to deconstruct these long held beliefs you’ve had about yourself and I’m more glad that you realise that when it comes to perception of yourself, what others believe should never have more importance than what you believe about yourself. I wish you strength, grace, and self compassion on this journey. I hope you reach a point where you see your worth and know that you’re deserving of every kind of love.

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Thank you Fatima 🥹💕. There are literal tears in my eyes right now

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Aug 11Liked by Blessing Maraizu

Always leaving us in a state of reflection🥺💕

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Thank you Emma🥹💕. I’m glad you liked it!

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Aug 13Liked by Blessing Maraizu

This has given me so much to think about, and I'm obsessed! Your writing is beautiful in this and you've been able to articulate so many things that I'm sure many people have wanted to put into words!!! I smiled in adoration and admiration so many times reading this. You're amazing, Blessing!

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thank you so much my love🥹😍

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Aug 11Liked by Blessing Maraizu

The essays keep getting better🥹

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Thank you!!! That’s what we hope for🥹

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Aug 12Liked by Blessing Maraizu

What is ugly? Is there a particular shape of head one must not have in order to not be considered ugly? A specific eye color? Skin color? Nose shape?

I was going through my gallery last week and I found lot of your pictures and videos and they made my heart so warm. You are beautiful, Blessing.

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Thank you so much my love🥹💕

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WE’RE BACK BABY!!!!

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